Of course, you may not even need the test, as finding out your language is a fairly intuitive process.
Simply think about how you would treat someone special and about how you’d like to be treated.
"The Five Love Languages for Singles" addresses the unique situations singles face, and integrates how the five love languages apply in their relationships: - Quality Time - Words of Affirmation - Gifts - Acts of Service - Physical Touch - Single Adults: Significant and Growing - The Key to Relationships - Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation - Love Language #2: Gifts - Love Language #3: Acts of Service - Love Language #4: Quality Time - Love Language #5: Physical Touch - Discovering Your Primary Love Language - Making the Family Connection - Love Languages and Dating Relationships - Should Love Lead to Marriage?
“Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We are giving credit and praise.” ― Gary Chapman, “Real love" - "This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth.” ― Gary Chapman, “For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. We can ask for forgiveness and try to act differently in the future.
The problem is, as Chapman puts it, ‘’seldom do a [couple] have the same primary emotional love language.’’And this sets the stage for all sorts of miscommunication: moments where a couple try to express their love to one another but end up missing the signals that mean ‘‘I love you.’’ When someone is important to us, we naturally want to let them know how much they matter – and it can be frustrating when they don’t appreciate our efforts in the ways in which we expect.
In a similar vein, when someone who loves us demonstrates that fact in a way we find personally moving it means the world; even if the gesture itself is a small one.
For a definitive answer, Chapman offers a 30 question test on his website (take it here).
This test even breaks down the weight you give to each language – helping to point out not only the ways in which you like to give/receive love but the areas which you should be aware may need work!
Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.” ― Gary Chapman, “I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him: 'Father forgive them for they know not what they do.' That is love's ultimate expression.” ― Gary Chapman, “Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. Pretend the TV is broken and talk like you used to when you were dating.This is where the love languages can be a useful tool.By knowing which language you relate to the most you will have a better idea of what you need from a partner in order to feel cherished.Chances are, your choices will align more strongly with one or two of the following: Those with quality time as their primary love language thrive on time spent alone with their partner.This could mean an elaborate date night or a simple night in; the main thing is that it’s time spent truly in each other’s company – so no checking of emails/cell phones allowed!