I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a 1997 book by Joshua Harris.The book focuses on Harris' disenchantment with the contemporary secular dating scene, and offers ideas for improvement, alternative dating/courting practices, and a view that singleness need not be a burden nor characterized by what Harris describes as "selfishness".Harris popularized the concept of "courting" as an alternative to regular secular dating, and in doing so has caused discussion regarding the appropriateness of his solutions to regular dating as well as the foundations on which he bases his reasoning.In general, Harris believes that dating has become too inwardly focused.Since marriage affects the rest of your life here on earth as well as the afterlife, a sincere Christian will not make plans that God cannot approve.The courtship period is a time to studiously evaluate the character of the one you are considering and to analyze if your personalities and life goals are compatible.In an interview with Family Christian Stores, Joshua Harris indicated that "people have taken the message of 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye' and made it something legalistic -- a set of rules.
, you may be unfamiliar with the term "officially courting.""Courting" is one part of the Quiverfull movement, an evangelical Christian system of beliefs.
In an appearance on the show in 2015, Duggar matriarch Michelle recounted advice she often gave her daughters.
"Anyone can fix [your husband] lunch, but only one person can meet that physical need of love that he has, and you always need to be available when he calls," she said.
In 2008, the Duggars' reality series, The Duggars practice Quiverfull values, a social movement that began in the '80s and has become popular with Christian conservatives.
Those who follow the Quiverfull movement date using chaperoned "courting" periods, marry at a much younger age than the national average and never use birth control. The Quiverfull practice often results in very large families, as it did with the Duggars.