The way we present ourselves on the outside says a lot about our style, personal preferences and confidence. Avoid excessive complaining and a negative attitude. If you run into traffic or an unexpected setback, give your date a call or text so they aren’t just sitting around waiting on you to show up. Be respectful and polite, avoid answering calls or checking your text messages when you should be conversing and getting to know your date a little better. It can come across as incredibly blunt and possibly offensive if your date is not on the same side of the spectrum. Don’t bring up ex-partners or previously failed relationships.
Nobody really enjoys spending time with those that have nothing nice to say and a poor attitude is sure to ruin the date altogether.
We have a lot to pay attention to on a date—what we think of the other person, how we’re coming across, whether they meet our expectations, whether we meet theirs—all of which is over and above our need to be present and engaged in the moment. If you do not ask your date questions, they will assume you’re not interested in them and will promptly lose interest in . No one wants to hear about your colonoscopy on a first date (or the second, third, or fourth). Unless you’re asked directly, avoid soliloquies about your ex. Make sure conversation flows back and forth, and don’t make it hard for the other person to get a word in. Even when the date is going amazingly well and you think the feeling is mutual, avoid calling your date (unless you work in a diner and can’t shake the habit). There is absolutely no need to announce all your flaws on a first date. Making one self-effacing joke is fine but not a string of them. There’s a reason you shouldn’t discuss politics or religion on a first date: When you have strong opinions or beliefs, it’s easy to get a bit overexcited and go from participating in a discussion to monopolizing one. Get your Astrological chart done and see if you are a hopeless case."On the fourth date, you should pause and give her a moment to jump in," Thomas says."You want to show her that you can take care of her, but if you pay for the relationship takes on a parental quality." If she's not looking for a sugar daddy, she'll appreciate being able to pull her own weight.4.Think positive, smile and forgo being critical as it can really leave a sour taste. If you have a few things in common, that’s great, but if you have differing opinions or preferences, that’s okay. It’s customary for the person who requested the date to pay for it, but nowadays compromising and discussing how to separate the check isn’t considered all that uncommon. Be conservative and limit yourself to just a couple of drinks. Make a good first impression by being attentive and engaging, but most importantly – be yourself!